Recently I was sharing my favorite parenting tip/discipline idea with a friend, who was raving over it, and I thought, “Wow, that actually IS pretty good, I should share it with my readers!”
So here goes…
When the kids stress me out during the day, either by fighting with each other, not doing their work, whatever, usually I just ground them from something. That's probably what most of us do, right? My first instinct is to take away TV and video games – that's my favorite! It's also what works best around here. If whatever they did was “really bad”, they serve the sentence, period.
However, if I'm feeling generous I'll let them “earn it back” a little early by giving me a nice long neck and back massage before bed. Good idea, huh? They cause me stress, now they can relieve my stress: the punishment fits the crime. Ha! How long my massage lasts depends on the age, but I thoroughly enjoy it and it brings me great parental satisfaction. 🙂
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Next, I need some help…
One of our kids is SO messy. We want him to be a good spouse someday and we need to fix this! And yes, all kids are slobs to a point and have to be taught to pick up after themselves, but this one is going through an extra slob-streak. Everything he touches stays right where he's done with it and nothing gets put away. We've tried punishments, which haven't worked, so now I want to try a positive re-shaping program. (Like my name for it?)
I thought of giving him $10 in quarters, and every time we have to pick up something he left around, we take a quarter. Anything left at the end of the week he gets to spend. But $10 is a lot, and the other kids will probably complain that they're not getting that, too. Plus it feels like we're rewarding him for being a slob all this time by paying him now NOT to be one. Maybe I'm over-thinking it.
What do you guys think? Or do you have a better idea for us??
The same one is also a terrible procrastinator. His work could take him maybe an hour or two each day, but he manages to stretch it out for 8 hours. He knows he can't go play 'til he's done, but he still drags it out. (I plan to try separating him more from the others, he also gets distracted easily.) We finished with our curriculum last week (Yay, 3 weeks before the public school kids, now we're off on field trips here and there!) so we're on our summer schedule, which includes chores, brain games, and reading each day, and then weekly they need to get through 3 math lessons, but they get to choose when they do it. They can get it all done in one day or spread it out. He'll likely wait 'til Friday each week and getting him to knock it out then will be a pain — lots of threats of being grounded, etc. I'm not sure how to fix this except sticking to my guns and making sure there is NO fun until his work is done. Ideas?
Thank you for any help and suggestions you might be able to share! Has anyone read this book: Have a New Kid by Friday? I've also always loved this one, Parenting isn't for Cowards. I should probably pull that one out again.
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