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Lowering Stress and Anxiety by Realigning Your Priorities

April 3, 2014 · 4 comments

Jesus and Mary restAre you often overwhelmed and frazzled, sometimes to the point of tears, with a to-do list so heavy that you feel buried under the weight?  And then do you feel guilty for fretting over something as unimportant as a list, when some are dealing with things like poor health or other real problems?

You might say that I know the feeling.

Lately, however, I’m gaining new clarity about this struggle in my life, mostly thanks to Jen.  In recent years, much of the meaningful advice or helpful observations that I’ve come across on motherhood, time management, and peace were from Jen’s blog.

Like this:  The Courage to Rest.  In that post she shares a powerful story about the daily schedule of Mother Teresa’s Missionaries of Charity, and she explains how bringing peace to our household often comes at the sacrifice of a large chunk of our to-do lists. 

I found that more than anything it was an exercise in letting go of control. I understood on a visceral level why it’s monks and nuns who are known to have the most peaceful daily routines: because it requires great trust in God to walk away from your endless list of demands when there is still technically time to get a few more things done. It requires tremendous faith to rest.

As I find myself getting overwhelmed yet again by having one (or fifty) too many things piled on my plate, I’ve been thinking about this lesson often. There’s an almost exhilarating rush in those moments when I close the laptop with so many emails left unread, shove the laundry baskets aside, and push the paperwork into a pile to be sorted tomorrow. It feels dramatically counter-cultural, and even exciting in an odd way, when I muster up the courage to rest.”

And there was this post:  The Secret to Not Being Overwhelmed:

God is not asking you to do what He does not give you the time (or health, or resources) to do. So be at peace.”

family first creativeThere are many more nuggets in that post that I still haven’t fully grabbed onto yet, so I’ll be going back to it now and then.

As if all of that weren’t enough, the other day I read her new e-book, The Family First Creative – 42 Tips for Following Your Dreams While Putting Your Family First, which helped me pull it all together even more.

She gives tips for figuring out what your passions in life are (in case you don’t know already):  What gifts did God give you to help the world in a way that only you can?  Gifts that when you use them, you are energized?  She shares details on how you can pursue these gifts and passions even if your life is nuts; whether it’s due to a busy family life (they have 6 young kids) or another reason.  My real food passion helps a little to pay our bills, but it’s not that way for everyone.  For some, pursuing their passion doesn’t bring in any income, but it gives them something else tangible:  the energy needed to thrive in other areas of their lives, like motherhood, or in different ways if you don’t have kids.

happinessShe encourages writing out a “Family Vision”:  Sit down and figure out what you wish you could fit into your week when you consider your spouse and their passion/what gives them energy, your kids needs, and your own passion/what gives you energy.  Then plug things in to make your priorities match up to how you actually spend your limited waking hours.  Once this match-up happens (and you decide what to pursue now and what may need to wait for another stage in your life), it helps you to live the life of peace, joy and service that you were called to live.

It really helped to get it all down on paper and realize that, thankfully, I’m not all that far off from where I’d like to be.  Most of my day reflects my priorities, except at times I work too much.  It really helps to have renewed my commitment to keep the laptop closed on Sundays.  (Read more about that in the comments here:  Has Technology Stolen Your Evenings, Weekends, and Vacations?)

If you have any insights or tips on all of this, I’d love to hear it, because I need all the help I can get!

Of course taking stock and making a new plan won’t mean every moment in life will be all sparkly.  And as Jen says, sometimes you’ll need to kick into “survival mode” to get through extra busy times, but if you know that you’re generally headed in the right direction you’ll still be at peace.

More joy and peace = less stress and anxiety = healthier bodies and souls

How to get the e-book:

something-other-than-godHere’s the tricky part.  This new e-book, The Family First Creative – 42 Tips for Following Your Dreams While Putting Your Family First, is free for those who pre-order Jen’s new book, Something Other Than God, by April 28th.  I pre-ordered my copy the very day she announced that it was available (she spent years on this and I’m so excited for her), but if you don’t want to read her memoir, then it’s still worth the $17 or so just for the free e-book.  And you can give the Something Other Than God book to someone else.  (Once you pre-order, click here to get The Family First Creative – 42 Tips for Following Your Dreams While Putting Your Family First before April 28th.)

Keep in mind that the e-book is a quick read (100 pages), but it’s loaded with information if you need some detailed help.

I realized that one of the most common questions I get is, “How do you find time to write?”  So I decided to answer that question in a short e-book. 

I dug back through every single thing I’ve learned while writing a book and helping Joe study for the CPA exam while homeschooling and having six babies in eight years. I thought through the conversations with wise spiritual directors, the advice whispered to me by mothers with decades of experience, the lessons that came from exhausted, teary moments when I pushed myself too far…and I could not stop writing.

I included the kinds of details that are rarely discussed but are really helpful when you’re trying to get a picture for how to make this kind of advice work in your own life, like:

  • A detailed breakdown of our expenses, including how I fit help into the budget
  • A detailed breakdown of how we arrange the bedrooms in our three-bedroom house to fit everyone in
  • How much money I typically bring in from blogging
  • A template “help wanted” note for finding a mother’s helper
  • A sample hour-by-hour schedule of a typical day (not one of the insane ones)

I pushed the official pre-order announcement date way back because I didn’t want to cut anything helpful from the book, and I needed the time to get it all down. (Without letting my house fall to pieces in the process. Which is totally something I would do: Yell at the half-naked five-year-old to get her sister more Cheetos for lunch because mommy is stressed about writing her book about making family your first priority.)

So this is it: Every single thing I know about trying to do well at a craft you love, while making sure your family still takes the number-one spot in your life.”

Once you click here to pre-order Something Other Than God,

THEN

Click here to get The Family First Creative – 42 Tips for Following Your Dreams While Putting Your Family First before April 28th.

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    1 Rich Z April 3, 2014 at 8:15 am

    1Peter 5:7 Can relieving stress be that simple? Why is the WORD- “ALL” used and not the words; most, some, just the bad things? Realign your priorities- your way or His way. This is truly an all natural approach to worry and anxiety :)

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    2 Sarah April 15, 2014 at 9:39 am

    We keep our lives fairly simple. However, I find that there is still a tendency to pick something to worry or fret about. For me a busier schedule, not crazy mind you, keeps me occupied and on task better. Resting in the Lord for me has to be a conscious decision that unfortunately I have to make several times a day. I have a hard time making the decision and simply letting it be, unless we get busy and I am sidetracked!

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