How to keep kids safe online — is it even POSSIBLE?
As you know, there's a lot more to keeping our kids safe and healthy than feeding them well. As parents we all want to protect our kids from the filth they could come across on the internet that could poison their minds. Images of violence or porn stick with us a really long time, forever in many cases. This can definitely affect how we look at and interact with the world and can negatively impact future relationships, to put it mildly. It could be a curious kid just looking around, or the MANY ways they can accidentally see raunchy stuff online, too. One of the worst ways are the suggested videos that pop up after you watch an innocent one, they are often terrible. Usually those are based off your past viewing history, so if you're seeing those a lot, there's a reason for it that you'll want to figure out, but once in a while random junk still turns up!
Most options out there make you CRAZY…
A few years ago I went on a mission, surely there was a way to monitor what our kids would see online. After a lot of research, I installed a top-reviewed option on our laptop. Installing it was a chore in itself, and then using it turned into the biggest pain in the you-know-what. The kids couldn't move around online at ALL without us having to put a password in over and over and over, and these were for totally innocent sites, it made us crazy!
It wasn't long and I took it back off, it was THAT annoying.
So we just had to put other safeguards in place, such as making sure they used the computer out in the open where we all were, emphasizing that they never give out personal info or their location, checking their history often, let them know that if they change the password on their phone then it's ours, etc. The problem is, we would get lax on these things after a while, and also history records can easily be deleted.
Thankfully so far our kids haven't gone looking for stuff they shouldn't. Anytime we're checking history we see a gazillion videos on painting your nails or doing your hair and make-up with our daughter, and Minecraft or aviation-related stuff with our sons.
But all kids will get curious at some point about the stuff they shouldn't see, boys and girls, and as I said above, this is all not to mention the trash that shows up by accident!
Also, as the years have gone on, I'll bet your house is like ours in that there are more devices than ever.
Our kids don't get a phone 'til they're 13, so that means only one person in our family doesn't have one right now. Then there are computers and an iPad, and… That's a LOT of internet activity to keep track of!
I knew I had to figure out something for how to keep kids safe online.
Then I got an email from a reader friend, Marie…
I've recently heard really good things about Covenant Eyes, so thanks for this reminder to look into it.
I'm reading a book called, Strong Mothers, Strong Sons. She emphasizes the importance of protecting our kids from the internet. She had a lot of good things to suggest we say to our kids about it—(paraphrase) “There are a lot of impure things on the internet made by pornography companies who are using their advertising money–millions of dollars–to get kids addicted to their products. If you see anything by accident, look away immediately. It's not your fault.”
Those images can stick in a person's head a long time, and the average
age of a child's first encounter is 11 years (you've probably heard that) — and I know you already are concerned of this topic. It's certainly worth doing.
I don't want to stumble across it, either, honestly! So once you get good software, your eyes don't have to worry about it. (Or anyone one else who visits your house and uses the internet.) It's just the age we live in.
After a LOT of research, we got this one…
I've spent hours looking at so many different parental controls sites, I don't even remember them all now. Either they were too expensive (often with a separate charge for each device), or they were only for phones or tablets, not for computers too, or they were for the entire house (through the router) so then everyone had the same filters, or the controls were TOO tight and the kids couldn't browse at all without a password, etc. etc…
With Covenant Eyes, you get it set up, and then they can only get online through that browser — they can't get online in other ways, trust me, I checked. So they can still get on YouTube for example, but only through that browser. It was actually pretty easy to install (clear instructions for ALL devices), and you can set up controls however you want, so I've only had to put in the passcode a handful of times in the past month or more!!! You can set up filters to be as strong as you want or for certain age-levels. The best part is that you get reports (which you can have sent as often as you choose) that will tell you if there are any areas they suggest for review, and the kids know you get these reports, so that's another layer of protection, too. You'll be emailed reports for all computers, tablets, or phones. (Android or iPhone, maybe others too, not sure about that one.)
Unfortunately the filters aren't perfect, though. (Nothing is, I've looked into this a lot.) Once we got a “strongly suggest review” report, and I found an inappropriate site that was visited. I was so sad that one of our kids saw this stuff, so we talked to them about it. They were mortified that we thought they went looking for that, and said it came up by accident after watching another video. Our kids have never lied to us before, so we believed they were telling the truth. Lest you think we're big suckers, here's the other reason we didn't think they were fibbing: the report also shows how long the site was viewed, and it was just a few seconds. We figured that if a kid came across something like that and had been looking for it, they're not going to be clicking back off so quickly. Because we knew what they saw, this gave us a chance to have a good conversation about a lot of issues that nobody likes discussing, but nonetheless it needs to happen.
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More on how to keep kids safe online (and your whole family):
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- This isn't safety-related, but it's still related… Click here to get good deals on refurbished Mac computers — we LOVE Apple products around here, but they're more expensive (higher quality always is!), so a friend told me about this place to find good prices.
I hope this post is helpful to you!